One of my singers auditioned for The Voice last week, and did an amazing job. She sang her heart out and felt fantastic
about herself and her performance, and I couldn’t be more proud of her.
Before she went, however, she was
filled with doubt and emailed to ask whether she should go through with it. Was
she good enough? Was she better than those who’ve been on the show? Was it all worth
it? What if she didn’t make it; what if she ‘failed’?
We all ask these questions of ourselves… are we worthy? Will we hit the mark we’ve been aiming
for? Should we bother?
Here’s what I wrote back to Sabrina. And I hope it will help you as much as it
encouraged her to give up the doubt and hop on the plane!
Sabrina, do you have any idea how
hard you’ve worked and how far you’ve come?
How incredible you sound and how much you’ve gained as a singer and an
artist and a performer these past few months?
I couldn't be more thrilled for or proud of you.
We can always find people we think
are better than us. Even the greatest singers in the world can find someone
against whom they don’t think they compare. Should they then stop singing?
Is that the point… to be ‘the best’? What does that even mean!?
You have to ask yourself… why am I auditioning, and more… why do I sing? Why did you make your CD? Why are you
going to Nashville to audition for The Voice? Is it to be ‘the best’ or
‘to win’? If so, you might find yourself
frustrated even if you succeed, because these are standards against which none of
us can ever measure up.
If, on the other hand, you’re auditioning–
and singing and making music in general– because you want to challenge yourself
to be your best, then not only will
you enjoy the ride, but you'll continue to grow, including beyond where you once
thought possible. And if you frame winning as accomplishing your goals and
dreams with grace, persistence, and an open mind and humble heart, you will always be successful.
When you doubt yourself– and we
all do from time to time– go ahead and listen to ‘that voice’. Sometimes
it has wisdom for us… have we practiced enough? Are we working hard enough, caring for ourselves enough, and
challenging ourselves in the right ways? Take that wisdom in and apply it, and
then get back to getting ready for a wonderful adventure, both in terms of this
audition and all along your musical journey!
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